Otherwise, you would be. It's not rocket science, guy. You and your "needs" are trying to rationlize Flovilla a deplorable lapse in both honor and integrity. It really isn't all that hard, guy. All you have to do is NOT screw the other girls. It's not even as though you're required to do something other than NOT pick up the phone, NOT drive over there, NOT take off your pants and NOT screw them. You value your "personal needs" (translated: the need to stick you cock in a willing hole) over any concept of self-respect. Plus, you're endangering your GF with the increased risk of bringing home an STD. If I were your GF, you'd be out of my life so fast, you wouldn't know what hit you. If you can't manage to keep it in your pants for just a few days, then gee, how would you survive if she had a problem pregnancy? Or even had the 'flu or anything that kept you from your "personal needs"? on this one. Here is a list of the things I hear YOU DH want: 1. Other guy to leave 2. Happy lying family Here is what I as wrong with the picture: 1. is lied to this come back in Spades trust me 2. Bio-Father being excluded from HIS -'s life 3. You and DH pretending "nothing happened" 4. Lying to Bio-Father 5. Lying to yourselves 6. Lying to the world 7. Lying to the Doctors when it matters Forget about who did what to whom and when. You are where you are deal with it. Do what is right and deal with the consequences. Unless Bio-Father is a using dead-beat abusive A-hole, let him know and work out an amicable solution. Of course, Bio-Father could always just demand a DNA test, prove paternity, and then crush you in court b/c you are currently denying him his parental rights.Never Married Jaqueline, 41

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