this dude is a hot fucking mess. St. Leon I think he's bi at the least, but won't admit it. I might feel a little better if he didn't evade the very pertinent question about HIV, or tried telling you that he's abstained from sex (LOL!) especially considering his own description of himself. Just because he's good looking doesn't mean you should ignore the gaping hole in his head. I'm not denying the suckitude. I'm denying that you should let it overwhelm you. I have a friend right now who's having a hard time getting a job. And, on top of that, she broke up with her time partner and has not been able to get over it (it's been a year now). And part of me feels bad for her because I know how hard both of those things are, and together, no less, but part of me wants to kick her in the ass, too, because what's happening is that she's wallowing in those difficulties and reaching out to her friends and family who pet her and go, "There, there," and allow her to relive the difficulty over and over, instead of shaking her and getting her to STRATEGIZE. She's damn good at strategizing. That's when she really shines. But she's gotten in this hole where she feels like crap and the only thing that makes her feel better is being agreed with on how big and mean the world is. So she hangs on to that one good thing that picks her up but the only way she can on to that is as as she doesn't take steps to fix her situation! And since she's % focused on how things ARE and not how they COULD be, she's always down, goes into job interviews as a miserable disaster, so of course no one hires her. No one wants to date her. Talk about something that fucking sucks. So me, I say, acknowledge the suckitude, because knowing it exists and why it exists is the only way you can plan and strategize and figure out how to make it go away. It's the first step. But you've gotta get beyond it if you're going to finish the transition. btw, this is slightly here and there. My gf is learning Arabic right now and she says that the word for "friend" in Arabic is related to the word for "one who tells the truth." I like this. I don't know why in our culture we've hit this point where we only tell strangers hard truths but we shield our friends from them, even when they need to hear them. This seems backwards to me.
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