Never Married Tawana, 41

Not important Sabina, 35

Married Quiana, 50

Divorced Hector, 24

Keep in mind the adage "good tops are hard to find." IOW, tops are Ong in short supply relative to the number of bottoms who want them. Wanting to bottom is far more common than wanting to top, so you be competing with all the other bottomoids out there. It come as a rude shock, but your virginal butthole does not command a premium in the meat market. In fact, it probably have to be discounted heavily to move it. To answer your queries in order: 1. The Tantus "Ryder" buttplug is well worth considering. It's not very big, but it's big enough to be fun. The best prices I've found are at ($20), ($17 for metallic black), ($22), and ($21). When choosing a supplier, watch out for shipping and handling fees. What looks like a bargain at first turns out to be no bargain at all if the fees are too high. Black is the best color: like it or not, shit can stain toys, and black won't show stains. The dark purple is also good. Tantus toys are made of very high grade silicone, and properly taken care of, they last a lifetime. That's more than you can say for the hundreds of vinyl ones out there. 2. Your top be considerably less interested in whether your hole opens up on command than in whether you are a decent person. Looks and details of sexual function are not as important as personality and behavior. 3. Yes, you are missing out. don't fret about it. When the day comes for you to be rimmed, someone's tongue take care of the problem. 4. Most guys take an enema or use a shower shot to douche out their butts. Get a plastic nozzle from , and a diverter and an extra shower hose from Home Depot or Lowe's. don't pay ripoff prices for this gear. 5. To hair or not to hair: tastes differ. For the moment, put this issue aside. Later on, you hook up with a regular FWB who prefers a smooth hole, or you find you simply like it yourself; in which case, shave away. But not necessary at the start. they set up a ladder next to him, so you could climb up and take a whiff. *gag* it really smelled like dead animal. the botanists were all fired up, and told me all about it. apparently the inside can get up to deg. F simply due to all the metabolic activity going in in there. they had a webcam set up and then they cut a hole in the side of the flower so you could the innards. it was so cool.Never Married Vivienne, 33