Single Mariel, 25

a could ever want. My breakfast Wye Mills is made every morning before I rush off to my $ , a year job. My Beemer is immaculate and the are non-existent. The country club is only $75, a year and I have a garage door connected to my house retaining my golf cart that leads to the seventh hole. I was thinking of going to Starbucks. Grande or Vente? Should I divorce? I'm going to admit reading what you've written makes my blood boil a bit. He's pulled one of the well honored hole cards on you. You take a part of a person's past and you USE it to gain control and place yourself into a position of authority. Just look at what it's doing to you, he's up there and you are sitting here trying to climb out in order to attain his level. The 'big heart' shit is just another way to keep you there. "-, I have MY shit together and just look at the good I CAN do. You should listen to ME because you obviously aren't capable don't worry, it's not all your fault but I'm here to save the fucking day". Only problem is that you actually have a and what you before you is setting off alarms. You KNOW this makes no sense but because you've had this issue it makes you wonder if he's right or wrong. STOP. It is the SANE part of you that is trying to tell you he has the problem, it is the insecure, troubled part that is afraid, the part that doesn't trust herself. He IS right about the damn therapy but that's the classic move he can't be full of shit or you wouldn't buy into the program, he actually HAS to use a lot of logic and caring in order to be able to use his tactics. Without it, everyone knows he's full of shit, so he's careful about how he sprinkles it in. So you have to look at how it serves him, it builds in HIS excuses for wack behavior. OH no, it's YOUR problem I am the normal one. I know you that, part of you is trying to blow right past it because she's you don't want to lose what SHOULD be. RUN, run hard and run fast, exit strategy needed ASAP..he's going to turn up the heat as as you try to bolt. My advice, leave without drama, just get away THEN take his advice, tell this story to your therapist and start to unravel how this HAS effected your life. You be 'cured' for a lack of a better term when this cannot be used against you. You can't undo it but when you are clear of it's impact you can guard against the tendecies till you reach acceptance. Get OUT..quickly and quietly. NO contact with him just go.Divorced Armida, 24

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